In my last blog I mentioned how well the Prime Minister of New Zealand had handled the pandemic. Jimmy Levinson, friend/reader, sent me a picture of a woman hugging another and said he had just added the picture to his wall of heroes. I have to admit I didn’t know who the woman in the picture was, even though her name was printed underneath. When I said so, Jimmy wrote back that it was the Prime Minister of New Zealand. Oh… I thought to myself, that is what you get for not watching the news. Here is someone managing a country very well and you don’t even know her name. So I immediately googled Jacinda Ardern and began learning about her. And wow, if I had a wall of heroes she certainly would be there.
I learned that she is just 39 years old. Uri Friedman wrote in The Atlantic, April 2020:
Her leadership style is one of empathy in a crisis…. Her messages are clear, consistent, and somehow simultaneously sobering and soothing.
During a session conducted in late March, just as New Zealand prepared to go on lockdown, she appeared in a well-worn sweatshirt at her home (she had just put her toddler daughter to bed, she explained) to offer guidance “as we all prepare to hunker down.”
She introduced helpful concepts, such as thinking of “the people [who] will be in your life consistently over this period of time” as your “bubble.”
On June 9th when she learned the country was free of COVID she is quoted as saying “I did a little dance.”
I love that my friend has a wall of heroes, but that should not come as a surprise to me because Jimmy is a very unique and special person. Growing up in Pittsburgh, he was my next door neighbor. Through the years we have kept in touch. F. James Levinson, as he is known professionally, has had an outstanding career in Public Health and Nutrition projects throughout the world. Here’s a link to his bio as part of the Board of Directors of his son Noah’s organization, Calcutta Kids. Noah has won awards for his work with Calcutta Kids which is an organization “committed to empowering the poorest children and expecting mothers in the underserved slums in and around Kolkata, India.” I strongly encourage you to check out their website and even consider donating to Calcutta Kids.
I asked Jimmy to send me a photo of his Wall of Heroes and got 6 photos showing a diverse group of individuals, some I recognized and some I didn’t. The idea of a wall of heroes is quite wonderful and I am thinking how I might create that here in Costa Rica. It will not be quite as elegant as my friend’s, where each picture is carefully framed, but I am lucky to have a printer and can print out photos and maybe mount them on another piece of paper, and with my watercolors paint a frame. The first two will be Jacinda Ardern, and Ruth Bader Ginsburg and I will call it my SHeroes’ Wall. I look forward to thinking about other additions and while I will be focusing on women I will certainly include some men too. If you were to create your wall who would be on it? Certainly the quality of empathy and compassion from a leader will be an essential qualification.
As I think about compassion and empathy and caring about people, I remember how I ended many workshops that I led. It was very important to me that we left caring about each other and wishing each other well as we continued on our journeys. So we ended with blessings in movement. If it was a large group that hadn’t worked together for very long, we would pass blessings around in a circle. One person (usually myself or a member of the faculty, for the purpose of modeling the instructions) would turn to the person to their right and, thinking a warm thought, would express that, through movement, to the person beside them (without touching). Perhaps they would circle their neighbor’s face or place one hand near the person’s heart and the other on their own heart. Or maybe they would encircle the person and then starting at the person’s head, gently move their circled arms down to the person’s feet. That person would then create their own movement blessing for the person next to them.
If it was a small group that had worked together for several days, each person would go individually into the center of the circle and then the other participants, one by one, would go in to offer that person a movement blessing. No matter which format we did, we ended by blessing ourselves.
With the very challenging world we are living in, we need every tool we can find to help us. May we bless each other and bless ourselves. And let us create our own wall of heroes or sheroes so we are reminded of how many caring and compassionate leaders there are, and have been, on our planet.
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I didn’t mean to leave John Lewis out, though. I wrote the above on the day he died, and he was a great hero of mine. He will be sorely missed now going forward with all the renewed civil rights activity happening. He was a particularly compassionate person, who remained in tune with MLK all his life. He was a person with a huge heart. A beloved enormously compassionate leader.
The first women who first come to mind in the public eye as Sheroes for me are AOC, Angela Merkel, Malala Youafzai, Greta Thunberg, Melinda Gates, Michele Obama, Ruth Bader Ginsberg, and now Jacinda Arden, and I like Rachel Maddow. I’m sure there are many many more I’m leaving out, but those make an initial list for me of women we all know.
Then there are those not in the public eye, and these women have taught me the most about compassion and empathy like my daughter, and you, and dear friends and people who have been surprising guides, more than I ordinarily pay attention to on the subject of forgiveness. They go unnamed since others don’t know them here them but they are definitely not unappreciated. They are the real movers and shakers behind the scenes in this world, and it is that way for all people, I think.
Then there’s the list of women who are among Joe Biden’s consideration for the VP, and I did look them all up a few weeks ago and read about them to familiarize myself with these remarkable women before considering whom I think Joe Biden should choose: Tammy Duckworth, Elizabeth Warren, Susan Rice, Michelle Lujan Grisham, Tammy Baldwin, Gina Raimondo, Stacy Abrams, Keisha Lance Bottoms, Gretchen Whitmer, Val Demings, and Kamal Harris. After my little bit of research, I think Susan Rice for VP. But each of these women are just extraordinary.
Then there are the women who have come forward and shared their stories on videos in your program Joanne, these women are true Sheroes for me sharing tales of abuse for the sake of their own healing and to help heal others.
The list grows long. It would not be easy to narrow it down, but a wall of remarkable women would be a good reminder of the direction towards unification and compassionate understanding we all need to go in. Right now I only have the art of my grandchildren on my walls. And they are good reminders too. In some ways the best reminders of all.
But of course there are the men and in our efforts to acknowledge women men must not be left out! But I’m sticking with women in this particular comment since it can use more attention, for women are not credited as much as men in general, as we all know, so a boost to the compassionate sex on the topic of compassion is a platform to begin.
Wow.. Lynn, love what you vote and YES YES YES especially your last paragraph where women are just not credited enough as men and it can use all of our attention!